Evolutionary psychology? I love it. I do not care if it is true or not, I just find myself fascinated by the possibility that it may be true! So here are the post I have made on evolutionary psychology:
Men value looks (and kindness) and women value money; here’s why!
Here’s the thing biology intended for men and women to have different focuses.
Essentially without science we can define women and men by saying women make babies and feed infants and men do not make babies or feed infants freeing them up to do other things with their time.
So males are naturally inclined to focus on other things (ie bringing in the bacon), while females are naturally inclined to focus on child care.
The most important factors determining how well a women will do her job of raising children are how kind she is and her health and her looks. If she has big breast she is more likely to be successful at breastfeeding. If she has a wide hips she is less likely to die during childbirth. If she has great hair she is eating well and more likely to conceive a child and provide a good home to that child both during pregnancy and after. Similarly how kind you are to him is an indication of how nice you will be to his kids. So women the most important thing about you to a man is instinctively going to be how you look and how nice you are!
Women throughout evolution have been taking care of babies so we are naturally inclined to be pregnant and tied to our offspring. So women are naturally incline to be impressed by how well a man can take care of her when she and her children are in a state where they cannot take care of themselves. In our past this had nothing to do with money though so we unlike men are not instinctively attracted to money but rather we are mentally attracted to it, instinctively we are still attracted to bad boys because they once represented good providers. So guys; no matter what a woman tells you, she is naturally inclined to be impressed by your wallet!
Men are attracted to your looks because biologically it indicates that having sex with you will produce a child that is likely to survive and you are attracted to rich guys and bad boys for the very same reason; you biologically think having sex with them will produce a child whose chances of survival are high!
Why women like bad boys and nice guys finish last (quite literally)!
Women are caught between two worlds. According to my theories on how early societies were, the early hunter gatherer societies looked like this:
Women got pregnant and had kids and mostly socialized with other women while raising their kids. Men grew up with mothers but no fathers. When they were old enough, men would seek out male role models and join gangs of men who were the hunters and protectors of the community.
Women and men did not really have committed relationships, but rather men competed among each other while hunting. The guy who brings home to biggest prey is the best and would get the most sex. So from our hunter/gatherer days women are used to giving sex (or getting into relationships) with the guy who brings home the biggest prey.
And the characteristics needed to be this guy are basically asshole characteristics. Also an asshole is more likely to care only about his sexual pleasure during bed and women like this because it increases the chances that he will cum first (increasing the chances of conception). So we have a genetic softspot for assholes. But times have changed and there is no longer any correlation whatsoever between being an asshole and bringing home the biggest prey, also with monogamy his chances of cumming first also do not matter as much. We cannot just turn off our biology though, so we still act the same… unless we are smart enough to realize that it is just biology.
We are getting there nice guys, if it any consolation way into the future we will be more evolved since the present day guy who brings home the biggest bacon is not usually an asshole his genes and the genes of those who mate monogamously with him will be the ones to be passed on. So one day in the future you will not finish last.
Why most women want to be dominated in bed.
Polls show that as many as 60% of women have rape fantasies and I am one of them. Many theories have been suggested to explain why this is the case.
My theory is that women are genetically inclined to want the male they are having sex with to cum. We want to be absolutely certain that he cums and that actually excites us sexually. The most certain way to be sure that he has or will come is if he is dominant and makes it clear that the sexual experience is for his pleasure. So we get mentally excited when we imagine that we are not enjoying the sex and he is because we are sure that it means he will cum. The point of the sex has nothing to do with our pleasure, his pleasure is the focus and therefore the likelihood that he comes is higher.
The other theories about wanting to be ultimately desired or free of the guilt associated with sex also makes sense, but I just wanted to add this theory to the pot.
See this article: How feminism ruined my sex life.
Women like shopping while men do not; is this part of why?
Is it a remnant from our hunter gatherer past? Women were the primary gatherers since they cared for children and had to make sure they were feed but could not take them into dangerous areas, while men who did not care for children were the primary hunters since although more risky meat meant less work for more food.
So women are more inclined to like gathering style shopping (looking around and shopping slowly for the best possible thing), while men prefer hunting style shopping (having a target in mind and getting it upon first sight).
Well that is the claim of one Evolutionary Psychologist, see more here!